Public Displays of Affection

On occasion it’s like we both get a second wind, we are on the same page and singing the same song. For some reason we oscillate from one to the other.

When we are  in tune, life is good and I want to indulge in it. I want to hold my wife’s hand, I want to give her hugs and I want to kiss her beautiful lips.

When we are at home, this is no big deal; when we are in public it’s another issue.

Jill is happy to hold hands but she has always been reluctant to display any affection in public.

I’m not talking about doing the Mattress Mambo or even swapping spit, I’m just talking about quick kisses and holding each other close.

It does me no good to push her to giving in, that would be the quickest way to find ourselves singing different tunes. But I think a little, polite PDA is a good thing and I would like to take advantage of the moments.

I’ve spent decades trying to convince her and now I’m asking for your help.

Jack and I have known each other since middle school – that’s 30 years ago give or take a couple of years.  We tried to date once in high school, but I quickly decided that I wasn’t ready for a heated relationship.  Don’t get  me wrong, Jack never crossed any lines of propriety.  He met me between classes and stayed with me until he had to make a mad dash to his class before the bell.  I remember once when we were sitting on the floor outside my History class.  When it was time to get up and go, he leaned over and kissed me goodbye.  It was my first public kiss – intentionally done in front of my friends.  He gave me a quick peck and off he ran.  I was shocked – my teacher gave me the ‘evil eye’ and my friends snickered and grinned.  I was embarrassed and instantly realized I wasn’t a PDA kind of person.

Fast forward to the present – I’d love nothing better than to be hand-in-hand with Jack or wrap my arm around his waist  and rest my thumb in his belt loop (which I used to do when we were newlyweds).  That would mean that he is in town and we have an opportunity to be together.  Do I feel the need to makeout for anyone’s benefit?  Not so much.  Why?  I feel extremely secure in my love and relationship with Jack that I don’t feel the need to put on a display.

Jack mentions two different topics.  PDA is one thing – keeping the spark is another.  I’ll address the second topic in a separate post.

Am I a prude?  I don’t think so.  I am a very shy, private person who likes to keep my thoughts and feelings “close to the cuff” . . . and I guess that goes for my kisses too.