Comments on: College For Kids – To Pay or Not To Pay? http://www.yourewrongimright.com/college-for-kids-to-pay-or-not-to-pay/ You decide - who's right and who's wrong? Mon, 19 Apr 2010 00:40:31 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jack http://www.yourewrongimright.com/college-for-kids-to-pay-or-not-to-pay/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Jack Mon, 12 Apr 2010 00:46:08 +0000 http://www.yourewrongimright.com/?p=375#comment-62 Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! I am sure in the end we will contribute more than I want and less than Jill wants. Cranky, and Jack (2) Jill (1) Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! I am sure in the end we will contribute more than I want and less than Jill wants. Cranky, and Jack (2) Jill (1)

]]> By: Cranky Sarah http://www.yourewrongimright.com/college-for-kids-to-pay-or-not-to-pay/comment-page-1/#comment-59 Cranky Sarah Sun, 11 Apr 2010 06:42:53 +0000 http://www.yourewrongimright.com/?p=375#comment-59 Coming from a family with a lot of financial ups and downs and with parents who were passively supportive, it was up to me to do all the work of getting into and paying for college. From navigating brochures to driving myself to the required ACT tests several hours away, from picking up the FAFSA applications from the school to finally going through my mother's filing "system" to find the needed tax documents and filling out all the FAFSA stuff, from fielding all the bills to repaying all the loans - it was all me. Do I think I benefited from doing all that grown-up work? YES! Did having to pay for it make me choose colleges based on cost - to understand the idea of a quality education - yes. My husband, on the other hand, had his schooling paid for - so long as he went to the school his father chose and got the degree his father chose. Did that go over well? No, he partied and flunked out. He didn't grow up enough to understand the importance of school for more than a decade and by then his father had mellowed out enough to not insist it all be his way and he paid for my 30-something year old husbands college. He still didn't really take it seriously, didn't appreciate it, or use his time wisely. So my approach is probably similar to yours - be involved but not do the work, ask questions to make sure they are making the best choices, and to not foot the bill. .-= Cranky Sarah´s last blog ..<a href="http://mommyiscranky.blogspot.com/2010/04/id-like-to-blame-tears-on-allergies.html" rel="nofollow">I'd like to blame the tears on allergies</a> =-. Coming from a family with a lot of financial ups and downs and with parents who were passively supportive, it was up to me to do all the work of getting into and paying for college. From navigating brochures to driving myself to the required ACT tests several hours away, from picking up the FAFSA applications from the school to finally going through my mother’s filing “system” to find the needed tax documents and filling out all the FAFSA stuff, from fielding all the bills to repaying all the loans – it was all me.
Do I think I benefited from doing all that grown-up work? YES! Did having to pay for it make me choose colleges based on cost – to understand the idea of a quality education – yes.
My husband, on the other hand, had his schooling paid for – so long as he went to the school his father chose and got the degree his father chose. Did that go over well? No, he partied and flunked out. He didn’t grow up enough to understand the importance of school for more than a decade and by then his father had mellowed out enough to not insist it all be his way and he paid for my 30-something year old husbands college. He still didn’t really take it seriously, didn’t appreciate it, or use his time wisely.

So my approach is probably similar to yours – be involved but not do the work, ask questions to make sure they are making the best choices, and to not foot the bill.
Cranky Sarah´s last blog ..I’d like to blame the tears on allergies My ComLuv Profile

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