Is it true, do good girls really like bad boys?
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| Here is a rare moment (I wish) where I will show my true ignorance about women.
Is it true? Do women really like bad boys? My whole life, every message I heard told me that if I wanted to attract a good woman, I needed to treat her like a lady, be a gentleman, open doors, ladies first and never burp in their presence. All the while, through school and into adulthood I’ve met couples that I would have never thought would be possible. You’ve seen it; the gorgeous girl next door hanging on the arm of the tattoo laden biker type guy whose every other sentence must include a string of 4 letter words. Or maybe it was the intelligent sweetheart hanging with the neighborhood nerd. For most cases I may be exaggerating a bit. But we know it happens. Honestly, more power to the guy but how does it happen? After a troubled relationship gone bad I can see a woman wanted to go out and experience the unique. We all know that at times women and even men will use a date as leverage to make another jealous. In the end don’t most women want to end up with a partner that will consistently treat them with respect and be there as a friend? Why do bad boys get good girls? |
Ok – I can’t say I have surveyed anyone about this – but I have, throughout the years, been known to have a couple conversations with my peeps regarding this subject. Sometimes it starts by watching a character on tv – sometimes it starts by watching the bad boy walk into a room. Either way, I too have been tempted by the dark side.
In many instances, women are tempted to just ‘let their hair down’, lose a little restraint and dabble in bad boy-ville for a while. Why? I think it’s the idea of doing the forbidden, the unexpected and just being free. I’m not talking about doing the horizontal limbo here, just some socializing and flirting. Coming from a 40+ married with children chick who had a very sheltered upbringing – flirting with a bad boy was pretty out of my league – I didn’t do any flirting growing up. The one time a bad boy did show me some attention (ok, we’re talking 20+ years ago), I questioned whether someone paid him to approach me – imagine an early ‘you’ve-been punked ‘ scenario. I remember feeling absolutely shocked that the quarterback of the rival high school would actually consider even talking to me much less watching the submarine races together (we were at the beach – so submarine races keeps with the theme, huh?) Alas, the bad boy left the beach and went home, as did I. My momentary bad boy experience was over – I couldn’t stay on the dark side long enough to give up my morals or virginity. So, Jack rest assured that although girls like me may have a momentary lapse of judgment in my youth, I much prefer the gentleman who genuinely cares about me and my feelings. I’ll take my best friend and lover any day over a bad boy. . . . however, Jack . . . if you’d ever like to be my bad boy biker cabana boy . . . I’ll gladly go to the dark side again! |
Readers: Is Jack out of his mind and totally shallow to even be asking this question? – Then again, Jack may not care anymore… he’s off to pick up his new Harley! 
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I know for me, my bad boy experience? Was because he was the only one that showed any interest in me, and because I was so starved for affection from a complete lack of it in my house, I pretty much jumped at it. Was a miserable 4.5 years I lost from my younger years unfortunately.
In high school I totally had a crush on a computer nerd who also happened to be on the swim team, but he never showed any interest in me. Neither did any of the other nice guys I grew up with – although after the fact it seems one or two of them were too shy to broach the subject. *sigh*
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@Lanna – I’ve been there too! Got the crappy t-shirt and everything! Isn’t it a shame that we didn’t have the insight then that we do now! For me, though I may have blown some of my youth on unwise decisions, I’m happy to say it is behind me. Thanks for visiting and commenting!